When Letting Go of Expectations Comes at a Cost There’s a common message in today’s world: “Lower your expectations, and you won’t be disappointed.” On the surface, it sounds wise. Peaceful, even. But beneath that advice lies a quiet truth we don’t talk about enough. In relationships—whether romantic, familial, or friendships—expectations often come from a…
Category: sensitivity
Words Matter
How would you feel if someone told you things that are not that easy to forget? Words that linger in our memories and leave a deep scar in our hearts and being. Maybe I am not the kindest person or not the most loving (to some), but I am not cruel and hateful. Maybe I…
What’s Your Love Language?
If you look up the meaning of love, it is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection. But what you do with that intense feeling of deep affection is what really shows love, at least in my humble opinion. Saying you love someone is easy. Showing that love is another story. My father’s love…
A Love Like Spring
I’ve always believe that my parents love for each other was one in a million. I never doubt that. “To me, your mom means the world.” – Yang Gwan Sik If I am fascinated with Japanese words, I am as much fascinated with Korean Dramas. Somehow they have a way of letting the audience immerse…
Where’s Your Nunchi?
Nunchi is a Korean concept that refers to the ability to understand and respond to the feelings and thoughts of others. It can be described as a form of situational awareness or emotional intelligence. Isn’t it amazing how certain foreign words sounded more profound when explained in English? How many of us can say that…
Hear Me Out
Are you the type of person who says what you have to say? The type who would just say – blurt out what you want to say? I’m not, most of the time. I am very cautious with my words so it takes time for me to really say something. I usually play it in…
Don’t Do That
“Sometimes people are beautiful. Not in looks. Not in what they say. Just in what they are.” Markus Zusak I feel like it’s been forever since I tried writing my thoughts down. For the past several years, I’ve been very open about my feelings. I have no qualms in showing my vulnerability to others. I…
{Brave}
“The only way to being at peace with yourself is to be accepting and loving of who you are.” Let me share you a story. Before I started blogging fourteen years ago, I was in a woman’s group and from there I became aware of this thing called blogging. And I told myself, Charina…you can…
Embracing Negative
I’ve seen it all and read it all. This thing about positivity. Positive thoughts. Positive feelings. Positive influence. Positive vibes. Positive crowd. You get my point? I have nothing against someone who sees and feels nothing but positivity. In fact, I have so much respect for those people. But you know… Negative feelings matter too….
What’s Your Blueprint?
It’s been a quiet few days, (or was it weeks?) here at Charina.Writes. Actually, I have about three drafts written in my “Charina Writes” folder in my notes application. But quite frankly, it sounded desperate. You know, like I wrote it just for the sake of being intentional. So I am here to admit, that…
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