There’s a kind of love that feels good, sounds right, and even looks admirable from a distance—but when examined closely, it is rooted not in care for others but in the elevation of self. We live in a culture that often confuses love with desire, attention, or validation. “Love yourself first,” we’re told—and while there…
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Fly, Anyway
Change has a way of showing up uninvited. It doesn’t ask permission. It doesn’t wait for us to feel ready. It just comes—wild, messy, unpredictable—and often at the most inconvenient times. And yet, in the wild of changing things, something within us stirs. We resist it at first, of course. That’s only human. We long…
Am I loved Or Just Useful?
There’s a kind of ache that doesn’t show on the outside. It creeps in quietly, usually when you’re going about your day doing what needs to be done—folding laundry, preparing meals, answering texts, holding things together. It’s a slow ache that whispers a question you didn’t expect to ask, one that makes your heart pause:…
Elephant In The Room
We often think it’s the big issues that weigh the heaviest in our lives—those thunderclaps of betrayal, failure, loss, or disappointment. But what if it’s not the loud, crashing moments that define us—but the soft, subtle ones? The ones we barely speak of? The little things? The truth is, little things are often the elephant…
Matter of Understanding
If God could whisper one truth into the soul of every person on Earth, what do you think He would say? I’ve sat with that question often—especially in moments when life is heavy, confusing, or just incredibly human. And though I don’t pretend to know the fullness of God’s mind, Scripture and the life of…
The Quiet Difference
That Changes Everything… Have you ever felt desired by someone—but still strangely empty? It’s a feeling many of us know too well. In relationships of all kinds—romantic, platonic, or professional—there’s a subtle but powerful difference between being wanted and being valued. One feeds the ego. The other nourishes the soul. To be wanted can feel…
Who Am I Becoming?
Life Is Not What We Make It, But Who We Are We’re taught from a young age to chase after dreams, set goals, and create the life we want. “Life is what you make it,” they say — and in many ways, there’s truth in that. Our choices matter. Our effort counts. But if we…
Words Matter
How would you feel if someone told you things that are not that easy to forget? Words that linger in our memories and leave a deep scar in our hearts and being. Maybe I am not the kindest person or not the most loving (to some), but I am not cruel and hateful. Maybe I…
Muted Love
There are people who love loudly (what does loving loudly even mean to you?) and there are those who show love through their muted sacrifice. In my quest for finding out if there is a Japanese word for muted love, I came to find out that there are a few words on how to express…
Unmei Ai
Unmei ai is a Japanese word which translates to “love of fate.” For someone who has never been anywhere in Japan other than the airport and a short ride by bus for airport transfer, my love of Japanese words and its deeper meaning is quite unexplainable. To be precise, I discovered this word, thanks to…
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