No one really talks about the awkward, uncomfortable, slightly soul-crushing part of setting boundaries — especially with the people you love. It’s supposed to be this healthy, empowering thing. And it is. But sometimes, it also feels like breaking your own heart a little. Because the moment you stop saying “yes” to everything, the people…
Category: Love
Value What You Have
While You Have It.. It’s a phrase we hear often. It sounds simple—almost too obvious to be profound. But life has a way of teaching us just how deep those words really go. We don’t always recognize the value of something while it’s right in front of us. The everyday moments. The people who text…
Mujo
The Beauty and Bittersweetness of Life’s Impermanence There’s a quiet, poetic word in Japanese—mujo—that means impermanence. At first glance, it sounds like something we might want to avoid. After all, most of us crave stability. We long to hold onto moments, people, places, seasons. But mujo isn’t cruel. It doesn’t come to steal joy. It…
The Power of a Gentle Spirit
In a world that often equates strength with dominance and volume, a gentle spirit can feel invisible or even mistaken for weakness. But Scripture tells a very different story. In fact, gentleness is not only a fruit of the Spirit—it is a powerful force that can change hearts, heal wounds, and reflect the character of…
Trouvaille
The Beauty of Unexpected Blessings There’s a quiet kind of magic in the word trouvaille. It doesn’t shout or demand attention. It whispers—like the warmth of sunlight falling unexpectedly on your face during a cold morning, or a song that finds you at just the right moment. Trouvaille is a reminder that sometimes, life gives…
Memoir of my Heart
There’s a quiet place in my life where I go to make sense of the mess, the beauty, the ache, and the grace of it all. That place is Charina Writes. It began simply—as a space to share thoughts, to process life, to speak gently into the noise. But somewhere along the way, it became…
A Love Focused on Self is Not Love
There’s a kind of love that feels good, sounds right, and even looks admirable from a distance—but when examined closely, it is rooted not in care for others but in the elevation of self. We live in a culture that often confuses love with desire, attention, or validation. “Love yourself first,” we’re told—and while there…
What Would Jesus Write?
If Jesus were to write your eulogy… Let’s just say it now: if Jesus were in charge of writing our eulogy, the whole thing would look very different from the carefully curated highlight reel we hope people remember about us. Forget the fancy bullet points and the “She was always so organized” line someone says…
Love Shouldn’t Cost You Yourself
There’s a hard truth many of us learn only after we’ve been bruised by love: You cannot change someone by loving them harder. Maybe you’ve been there—giving all you had, hoping your unconditional love would be enough to soften their words, change their actions, or finally make them see your worth. You stayed quiet to…
Am I loved Or Just Useful?
There’s a kind of ache that doesn’t show on the outside. It creeps in quietly, usually when you’re going about your day doing what needs to be done—folding laundry, preparing meals, answering texts, holding things together. It’s a slow ache that whispers a question you didn’t expect to ask, one that makes your heart pause:…
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