How would you feel if someone told you things that are not that easy to forget? 

Words that linger in our memories and leave a deep scar in our hearts and being.

Maybe I am not the kindest person or not the most loving (to some), but I am not cruel and hateful. 

Maybe I am overly sensitive and I overthink, but I am not judgmental and impulsive. 

If we have met at one point or another, I’m sure you’ll agree with me that I am not a burdensome human being. In fact, I do my best to get along well with everyone I meet. If I know that it’s not my ideal crowd, I do my best to keep to myself. I avoid conflicts as much as I can. I’ve always been a quiet person, for as long as I can remember.

Growing up, I kept to myself most of the time. If I’m hurt, I keep to myself. I’m not the type to show my pains or disappointments over how I was treated. This is probably the reason why, even up to a certain point in my life, I’m very careful with my words. Because I know how much our words can damage someone. 

Through the years, I’ve met a lot of people that opened my eyes to the sad reality that being your best, quiet, and kind self is not a guarantee that you will be treated with kindness, respect, and love. Most of the time, they’ll see it as a weakness. 

Not speaking up – to some people is a sign of weakness. And weakness attracts abuse. These could manifest in how we are looked at, how we are treated, how we are talked to, and how much we matter.

Our words are powerful. 

Some people abuse them. 

The idea that we can say however we wanted on any given occasion and situation is a testament as to how much words matter. 

Our words matter. 

Speaking up matters.

Our tone matters.

How we communicate matters. 

How we respond matters. 

It takes power and strength to know when to say it and what to say without damaging someone. 

We are what we say.

Just because we can doesn’t mean we should.

Until next time,