“No one broke my heart. I broke it myself by staying in a situation where my energy and time was no longer needed/wanted.”
I saw this quote flashing before my eyes while I was scrolling mindlessly through my newsfeed. But instead of continuing what I’m doing like I normally do, I stared at it with sadness and anger in my heart.
As I read through the comments under it, I became more upset.
No. No. No. This is so wrong.
“I am broken and someone broke me.”
Ladies, it’s okay to say you’re broken and it’s okay to say someone broke you. Yes, you could have left sooner….but please, never ever put all the blame on yourself.
“A strong woman is one who feels deeply and loves fiercely. Her tears flow as abundantly as her laughter. A strong woman is both soft and powerful, she is both practical and spiritual. A strong woman in her essence is a gift to the world.”
No, you didn’t break your heart. Someone did! Just because you choose to love and give as many chances as you could and just because it took you a while to admit that there’s nothing you can do, doesn’t mean you did it to yourself.
You, I and quite a few women that we love and know have been broken at some point in our lives. We’ve all been hurt…but no, we didn’t ask for it and we didn’t want it. We all love with different magnitudes. We all endure pains and sufferings on different levels. We all take and give chances on many circumstances in our lives with so much strength and hope. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
“The stereotype and sexism got to stop!”
We need to stop giving excuses to people (regardless of gender) who hurt others and making life miserable for others just because they can.
This is the problem. We let them get away with it. We don’t call them out on it. We don’t say it enough and loud.
“Be a voice not an echo.”
So whenever you see memes like the one I mentioned above, or talk to someone who blame themselves for feeling broken, please put a stop to it. Speak up. We women are not always victims. We are also victors.
Don’t take away the responsibility from the people that broke you.
You are broken. Someone broke you.
And yes, it is okay to say so.
“A strong woman stands up for herself. A stronger woman stands up for everybody else.”